It's really easy when you're a newly natural to feel a little overwhelmed with your hair. You may even question whether or not you should go back to your relaxer. I get it. You've invested tons
of money on new products. You've tried multiple protective styles. And yet you're still not convinced as to whether natural
hair is the route for you.
, or not to relax???
If this question has been buzzing in your ear lately and your goal is to obtain longer, healthier hair, then it's time to be honest with yourself. Before your next scheduled hair appointment, be sure to cover a few of these pointers to make sure it's what you really want.
Have You Been Patient?
With any new routine in your life, it takes time for the pieces to line up and take shape. With natural hair the benefits will come, but your hair first requires a little maintenance, proper care, and patience. After being treated with chemicals your hair is left limp and weak so we have to work with it to get it back to it's natural essence. Nurture it and it will pay off.
So you're over twist outs
and Bantu knots
. So what, girl! Don't be afraid to use that as a sign to change it up. Try flat twists, french braids, a blow out
. Give your hair a run for its money. This should be a journey, not a final destination. Going natural is about exploring the many facets of your hair, and that means getting your hands moving from time to time. I can tell you right now, I'm easily bored when I feel trapped with a few styles, but that's just more of a reason to explore.
Yep, I'm going there! A weave never hurt anyone. (At least not a good one
!) Last year a good friend of mine was transitioning into natural hair and introduced me to my best friend, the half-sie. (It's a half-wig). Here's a how-to
if you haven't heard, it's a real life saver and super cute!
Don't Be Deterred By The "Natural Hair Nazis"
"If it is not serving you, let it go." This goes for all the looks, judgments and misguided advice from those around you. Wearing your hair natural can mean sometimes you're going to receive a lot of unwarranted advice from people. A little constructive criticism is great, but what you do with your level of natural is up to you. Some Naturalistas
use absolutely no color, or chemicals, and might make you feel a little guilty if you do. You going natural should be a reflection and expression of who you are and you are the only person who needs to have any say in it.
Going back to a relaxer is like going back to an ex: It's been a while and you might not remember exactly why you left, so though it may seem like a great idea at first, it's probably not. You stopped relaxing for a reason: your hair was falling out, you had awful damage, or your hair wasn't growing. Don't forget the consequences of chemically-treating your hair on a regular basis.
I truly hope that in reading this you've found a little clarity. Whatever you do with your hair is ultimately up to you and only you. I've been natural for ten years
and I don't regret it. It's definitely a process that can be grueling at times, it takes time and patience but it has been undeniably worth it. My hair is stronger than it's ever been, it tackles heat, it grows faster and it's manageability does
get easier. I couldn't imagine being any other way.